Band girl who loves her job at it again

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  • Lonnie Barton Reply

    1.) Where did you meet? Husband and I met online, back in the day when doing something like meeting a person online was strickly taboo. It was 2002 and dating sites didn't exist. Yahoo instant messenger, however, did. And so one night, I was sat in my dorm room pouring over text books and statistics homework when I noticed in the background a rather heated debate taking place in the Yahoo Music Chat room. This was right around the time when everyone loved to hate Lars Ulrich for the whole Napster deal - so, here was this sad sap typing away, trying to defend the little Danish man and the band I had loved since I first saw the music video for Enter Sandman as a kiddo. That's it, I figured, I can't let this kid go it alone! Text books shoved aside, I spent the next few hours as the Robin to this Pantallica loving Batman. Turns out, my Batman was a freshly turned 19 year old manboy to my freshly turned 18 year old womangirl who spent his nights awake as a caretaker for his ailing aunt - hours, mind you, that lined up perfectly with my "sleep is for the weak" college eistance. It didn't take long for our nightly chatroom and instant messenger banter to turn this complete stranger into my very best and closest friend, despite the hundreds of miles between us. 2.) What was your first date like? Seeing as how we lived so far apart and were basically kids when we met, our "first date" is kind of difficult to define. Shit, neither of us even had a car, you know? But we had milestones, man - for sure. Like the day I convinced him to write me a handwritten letter - something real and tangible that came from him, that I could hold in my hands. And I kid you not, I must have carried that damn letter around in my pocket for weeks. To this day, I've never opened a mailbox and felt my heart jump out of my chest like it did the day that letter came. Or, there was the night I called him for the first time on the phone. It started as a joke, you know? I mean, you have to understand - this was back in the day when the only people you met online existed solely to kidnap you, stick you in a dark and dank pit, and force you to lotion up every few days. But/so there we were, joking about our black and white 6 month eletctronic friendship (though, at some point, I did upgrade to the yahoo messenger plus and was able to change my font color to this bitchin ombre red - bad. ass) when he dropped the digits and dared me to dial. I remember getting up from my desk with my little red flip phone, leaving my dorm room, sitting in this little quad area outside on top of a picnic table, and punching in the digits. It rang and rang, and then finally, a woman's voice answered - laughing. Turns out, dude could throw down the gauntlet, but when girl accepted and that little cell phone rang, he threw it in the lap of his aunt and hid in the kitchen. It took a good handful of minutes for her to get him to take back the cell phone. But once he did, we talked all night. And then, finally, the day we met in person. It had been about a year, and I actually ended up meeting up with and becoming good friends with his cousin J and J's girlfriend. They lived in Long Beach and I was now a sophomore undergrad in Orange County, so I'd spend a lot of weekends over at their place - which was your basic musician filled party pad. One weekend, it had been decided that dude would catch a ride with his older sister down South and spend a day at the LB house for a visit, and that I should be there when he arrived. So there we all were, in the middle of a jam session, when his car pulls up in the driveway and he's ushered into the house by a whole slew of alcohol drenched family and friends who hadn't seen him in forever. We barely get in a quick hi when he's dragged over to the drum kit and sticks are shoved into his hands. Big Steve on lead guitar starts to count down a blues riff and my best friend looks up at me from behind his kit and preps for the big bang, and just as he's landing the opener, his tripod throne digs awkwardly into the carpet and he tips the whole thing over backward, folding his body in half as he wedges himself into the corner of the living room - ass and feet up in the air, drum kit tipped over every which way, and the loudest crash bang rivaled only by the eruption of laughter from everyone in the room. Untraiditional, maybe. But dude sure knows how to make an entrance. 3.) When did you know you would be with this person forever? One night, we had driven out to Hollywood with a few friends to spend a handful of hours just killing time. We ended up on foot, walking up and down this dimly lit street, and found ourselves standing outside Ozzy Osbourne's house. It was massive and beautiful, and like it always did, the coversation turned toward music as this crazy lot of us stood on the curb just staring. And just as the wind kicked up and a chill came over me, he was shimmying out of his jacket and draping it over my shoulders. And I remember thinking how, even though I was standing in the middle of someone else's neighborhood, staring at someone else's house, this simplest of gestures from my best and favorite friend made it feel like home. 4.) How long did date before marriage? (And if you aren't married, cool! How long have you been together?) We "met" online in 2002. In 2004, he'd packed all of his belongings into a single carry on sized gym bag and moved into the musician house in Long Beach so we could be together. And almost 10 years later, in 2013, we married. It was a small wedding - just 10 guests, really, all my family - dinner and drinks were at our favorite restaurant, The Old Spaghetti Factory in Riverside, Ca, which was born out of an old train station and has been my favorite building since I was a little girl, and ended the night around a bon fire in my parent's back yard. My dress cost me $40. He wore Chuck Taylors. And we danced to Metallica's "Nothing Else Matters." 5.) What did you fall in love with? To this day, he makes me laugh like noone ever has. For that, I am most thankful. 6.) How do you complement each other? Despite being such polar opposites on things, like me having been a vegetarian for almost 15 years verses his thinking sausage biscuits and gravy should be their own food group, or his love for the Dallas Cowboys verses my lifelong fandom for the San Francisco 49ers, we seem to pick up where the other has left off on the important things. While I avoid confrontation like the plauge and care so much with others think of me, he's not afraid to stand up for himself and the people he loves, even if it puts him at odds with those around him. His stubbornness can get the better of him sometimes, while my empathy helps to put things into perspective. When I worry myself into a frenzy, he has this way of making me laugh and easing the tension in the room. Together, we manage to tag team whatever life throws at us. Batman and Robin, switching roles when needed. 7.) What do they do? He was a union carpenter for years until the recession hit and times got really difficult. Finding union work in SoCal for framing was next to impossible. He ended up pulling out of the union and finding work doing structural repairs for a pest control company, and he loves it. And the general public really seems to dig the dude - his ability to make even strangers roll with laughter helps put his clients at ease with the idea of a stranger coming into their home, ripping it apart, and putting it back together. 8.) How did having a baby come up? He's been on board with us having a baby since we were in our very early twenties. I was the one who hit the breaks for so many years. It was always something - you know? I moved out at 17 and immediately started undergrad. From the start I was incredibly driven - working 40 hours a week and going to school full time, graduating magna cum lade and excelling professionally. We moved in together in 2006 and scraped by - our 450 SqFt apartment felt HUGE to the two of us, me with my shared dorm rooms and him having spent the past several years of his life couch surfing, but we were in no position to be parents. And then I started grad school. Office job by day, student by night, for years my days started at 5am and ended well after midnight. I finished my masters degree in 2010 and we found ourselves at a stadstill. He'd been struggling to find work for two years and I was staring at a mountain of debt, trying to keep us going on my small salary. At 26/27 we found ourselves moving back in with my parents. But then, we pulled out of it. Slowly at first, and then all at once. I woke up one morning and realized I didn't have to be waiting for the other shoe to drop. A difficult perspective to change, sure, especially given my very toxic childhood, but there it was. I realized that while Having Kids would always terrify me to some degree, having kids with him did not. 9.) How do you know and what do they do to show you they're excited about being a mommy/daddy? He teases me relentlessly. Things like - Dallas Cowboy onesies and Punk Rock is Dead baby T's. He gets a kick out of my annoyance, a practice I'm fairly certain will only intensify the second he has a partner in crime. 10.) Tell us about one thing you're excited to see from them when you finally become parents? I'm excited to see him have the kind of relationship with my kid(s) that I have always wanted to have with my own dad. Everything that entails, you know - from hugging when it's not the holidays, saying I love you wihtout having to be prompted, coaching baseball, playing bord games, braiding hair, reading books. A million little things that make a relationship

  • Alfonso Hagenes Reply

    Pre-post edit: Saw your update and you've addressed a few things here, but I'll post it anyway. Hope you can take something from it. I am you. 4 boys: 9,6,2,10mo. I wanted 2, she wanted more, we settled on three. That was my limit. I actually said the words: "I don't know if I can be a good person if we have another kid." Then, like we somehow forgot how babies were made, had our unexpected 4th boy. Your time is drained and it's time to get your older kids involved with the daily running of the house. You can't dump everything on them all at once, but starting now they help clear the table and load/unload the dishwasher. Garbage should be the job of the 13 year-old; vacuuming for the 9 year-old. Or vice-versa, whatever. Do that for a month, then give them something else; cleaning the living room, helping (and eventually doing) their own laundry, mowing the lawn, raking leaves, cleaning bathrooms, etc. This should begin with a real discussion with your older kids about how much work there is in a home and how it is the job of the *entire* family to help. Not for allowance, not for reward, but as a duty to the family being able to do more fun stuff together (and mommy and daddy being happier). If your 13-year-old can't be bothered, maybe it's time to try to connect with her a bit. Teenagers are a totally different ballgame (I'm a teacher of teenagers). Best advice is to try to get her into something that requires her to empathize; volunteering at the humane society, helping with the little kids/babies in Sunday school/ joining Girl Scouts, a band, choir, anything and puts her into a structured group of kids who have expectations put on them by a non-parent. But listen, if you suggest it, she will decide it's stupid and never do it. Ask another adult or older teen to suggest it, anyone she looks up to or seems to like to hang around. A suggestion one week will seem to go nowhere, and then two weeks later, she may be asking for a ride to her new thing. Start connecting with the 9-year-old NOW. Find a common game, hobby, TV show, anything. I play the Pokemon card game with my older boys and it's some of our favorite times together. Board games. Video games. Geocaching, anything, anything, anything!! Connect now before he's 13 and it's too difficult. That's step one. Step two is splitting up the kids. My wife more often takes the younger ones and I take the older ones. We go to a minor league baseball game, explore the broken down dam on the edge of town, go to a nearby city and get sushi, whatever. Let them choose but put some limitations on it with regards to money/travel/etc. It doesn't matter how stupid you think it is, if we expect them to be open-minded we have to be the same. It's okay to give them two or three options of your choice and let them pick one. If they say "I wanna do ______" and you can't, tell them why. It's too expensive, it's too far (would take 3 days) etc. But if you can do it (i.e. there is a 3 day weekend coming up) go ahead and do it! Better you take a trip or visit something or do something you don't care for and your 13 year-old loves, than the other way around. You can handle it. She can't. She's a teenager (i.e. narcissistic sociopath). My wife finds time with the younger ones to be much more enjoyable than I do, and I hold her to that. She knows it's difficult for me and helps me out by letting me take the older boys places, just the three of us. Do take time with the littles too, but they're in total mommy mode right now and it will give your wife time to focus on them and you time to work with the older kids. Maybe see if you (or someone your daughter thinks is cooler than you) can convince her to spend time with the older boy, or at least show him the cool stuff. Books or music or whatever she likes could be passed on to the 9 year-old. Step three is continuing to try to talk to your wife about it. My wife has come to understand the burnout is real. My personality has changed and I'm still trying to get it back to the way I was before kid #3. I was happy-go-lucky, carefree, super-cool dude who enjoyed every second of life. Now I'm moody, scowl all the time, and snap at the kids before I spend the evening working on homework stuff and going to bed. If you need to suggest counseling, please do. Not marriage counseling for the marriage, but because you need a third party to help you both communicate and you need to (with your wife) come up with ways to de-stress yourself. It's likely that you will have to go see someone for a few sessions first before you bring her in. Of course, this depends on how she responds to the suggestion of counseling, but if you're just a hair away from walking out yourself, then you have to do it. Also, seriously consider starting to read many various parenting books for ideas. There are many out there and some are great. Some are garbage. Go to Amazon and find the best general ones or ones that deal with your specific issues, then go to the library and check them out (or get them through inter-library loan). Read them or listen to them on audiobook and keep a notebook of stuff you want to try. Some are written by psychologists, some are by parents with 8 kids, and most will have at least one or two things you can bring into your own parenting. BUT - keep your wife in the loop on it. She has to see the benefit and agree to parent in the same style as you do. Also, it will go a long way if she sees that you are doing everything you can to make a bad situation better. She would have a legitimate argument if you gave up and she came back and asked for any evidence of what you did to try to make it better. Step four: clear your schedule of extra stuff. I don't know your job, but I would have to drop my committee work, my extra-curricular coaching, any TV shows you watch, etc. Focus on yourself and keeping calm with the screaming starts. Don't physically manhandle them. It's easy to say "I'm not hitting them!" when you push them around physically. They will still see it as bullying and resent you for it. When you have the urge to get physical, pick them up and take them into the other room (this is for the twins) and take a moment to be calm with them. Get them to give you a kiss or a high-five or sing a song or whatever it is they've been doing lately. Connect with them now. Take a few breaths, then rejoin the chaos. In your talks with the older kids, let them know you've got to make a signal. My boys and we have a code. My wife and I, when they are getting snotty or hurtful towards each other, say "Remember respect," and the older kids take a breath, and say "I will remember respect." Then we have to hug. It doesn't count without the hug. Sometimes it works, sometimes we have to do it 19 times before it sticks. Sometimes it's timeout in their room for an hour. Sometimes they miss time with their friends or lose screen time. Make sure you tell them you love them ALL THE TIME. It's not just for them; it's to help you remember that too. We make sure we tell them we love them, even when we're disciplining them. We (you too) can't take it personally. They're kids. They're spastic and sensitive and clinically insane, but we're the people who have to help them grow out of that by demonstraing how sane, rational people operate. I feel for you brother, I really do. Even if you just focus on the 9 year-old, you might see the value in them, even if you don't experience the joy you've been told all your life you should. It will get better. Christ, it'd better! Analyze how you respond to them and adjust accordingly, because they are mostly incapable of doing the same. Take care of yourself.

  • Marge Gerlach Reply

    Thank you for taking the time to talk with me, I agree the world needs more humility. And people like you go a long ways, the Internet is the only place I voice a lot of my struggles that I don't feel like the world should be bothered with, so it's nice to have that feedback. I guess a lot of it had to do with me wanting *so badly* to be deployed. I scored a 93 on the ASVAB and had my pick of any available jobs. I chose human intelligence first but later switched to infantry because I wanted to have fun and jump out of planes. But that resulted in me behind injured. I'm trying my best to move on and be a productive person. For the first few years I was determined not to be limited by my injury. I was *always* on the go. I worked 40 hours a week and still had the energy to go out of town once or twice a week for a skateboarding trip or a concert. I played every other weekend in a band and did photography and film making. I can't skateboard anymore because it's gotten a lot worse and I can't risk being paralyzed. I did continue to film my friends skate and that was a good avenue for me to keep being active. I stopped playing in bands a while back but I run sound for them now with my current job (which has been killing me lately, my first day back to work after my back surgery this year two people in my department left, then my boss left last week and another tech got fired so it's me and one other tech working with no days off to try to cover everything.) My back is healing well thankfully so I'm handling it so far but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't stressful. I struggled with depression for a very long time and I wouldn't say I've gotten over it completely as it comes and goes in waves but I've gotten a lot better at managing it. I met an amazing girl earlier this year who loves me dearly and I never want to take that for granted. Before her I decided to be alone because I didn't want to burden anyone with my medical troubles. But she has a son who's almost two now and still makes time for me. We started dating right after my surgery when I couldn't even pick the little man up. The kids dad isn't in his life at all and I've become (what I believe to be) a great father figure. He's grown attached to me and I love him and treat him like my own. They both push me to keep going, and it reignited my desire to go back to school. Not for my sake but for theirs. A renewed purpose I suppose. I still do photography and film making on the side as my main hobby but it's hard to find the time with how work is going. My life could have gone many different ways but this is the way it is now. It's up to me to decide if I will take advantage of my opportunities or let them squander.

  • Ebba Ruecker Reply

    At first, no one really heard of dance music. Music was the number one thing that humans can say they are different in many ways. The sounds, melodies, and words that are chosen to create a piece is always unique when placed into each person's. Some could create something simple and others complex, it can differ in organization to chaotic, or emotional and lifeless. For him, when he walked into the store looking for an instrument, he found many different sounds he liked and the ways each one were played amazed him. He's heard songs on the radio, but to see the instruments used to create them, was truly amazing to him. He grew up poor, so purchasing one of these as a child was out of the question, it would be a few more years before he started to truly dabble into music. He got this assistant/intern job at a radio station instead of bagging groceries like most kids his age, the station's call sign was KLND 89.5, it was set up to help people around the area hear any events or local business information. He worked evenings on weekends watching all the 'on-air' talent play their favorite music, appealing to younger generations. It was amazing work, answering phone calls for screenings and music requests, queuing up and working the sound boards, and finally a day came when he worked for the first time as 'on-air' talent. He choose his songs meticulously and it ranged early back then, he listened to music for hours to find the right combinations, techno, dance, RnB, hiphop, jazz, alternative, folk, and rock. This was were he heard 'scratching', a technique used by DJ's to manipulate sounds. As he looked into it, he found a local guy who knew about this from his time in the city and what he found next was something spectacular. He spent hours blending, mixing, scratching songs. At the same time, he had gotten a music instrument, alto-saxophone, from his parents and became apart of the school band. He didn't notice it then, but music was his life. He just didn't notice it until he was older. He DJ'ed at the radio station until his high school years were over, and when he signed off that last time for over 7 years of interning and only getting milage checks to keep him there, but he loved it, and he went on with his life but didn't realize this was what he was missing for a few years. In high school, he made it as a soloist for a jazz musician and was offered a two year scholarship with a state school, he also made it to 3rd chair of the all state band for brass instruments, but neither of these where his choice to continue. His life went on with out music for a few years, only to listen to songs to himself as he worked jobs went to school and tried to become something his father wanted, these would be his regret.. This is were his story starts, because the experience he gained from living and doing music would teach him were his heart lay. "You can't make music on a computer, you need a mixer or sound board, instruments, and recording equipment. Where the fuck you going to get money for that?!" The boy considered a friend said to him as they left from school for the last time. "I don't know... What about that application you got from that download site? Fruity Loops?" He says reluctantly, because he doesn't want to sound stupid. The boy laughs at him, "like you are going to use that to create a whole song! You aren't going to do anything Bob, everyone knows you'll be working the jobs around here like everyone else." That bus ride was defining for him, because he listened to that boy and with those words resonating with him, he remained this way for years. He played at a two year college because his parent's never seen all of what he was doing with music, his mother wanted him to be a doctor and his father wanted him to be a basketball player. He attended at a technical college and did something he knew how to do because his uncle taught him for years, fixing cars. He made it to the college basketball team, and eventually did student senate for his last year. Although, the thing about letting people choose something for you should never be anyone's life. He stagnated when met with adversity and put his effort into picking up girls. By the time he was finished, he quit the basketball team after starting for two games, he stopped going to student senate after they blocked his proposal to create a radio station at the school that would open up a communication department if they wanted years later, and then focused on one girl. Before he knew it, he wasn't doing work in his field, he worked as a wild land firefighter. Then, he was living at his parents house, talking to the one girl, who also didn't live by her own rules. He was unhappy and still looking for someone to give it to him. When offered to do music some years later, his response was, "I don't have time to be wasting in music anymore, mom. I have bills now, my car, my insurance.." He tried to go to school again with the girl, but it ended when the stress got to him. He was holding three jobs, a full course load, and still making time to be with his girlfriend. He maintained a routine for two years until his parents broke up. His girlfriend and him were going to announce when they came home for the summer that they were going to have a baby, but his mother was drinking heavily, and his father was in a new relationship. He tried to help, but could only let it happen when it came down to it, because the more he helped the more they pulled away from their lives. In the end, they moved in with her parents, his girlfriend lost their child together, he lost his apartment, he quit his jobs, and dropped out of the pre-med program he was in. He got into an accident and they had to reconstruct his kneecap. He tried to do another pre-med program at a school near by, but was still recovering from the blow of his life. As he started to find himself again, he did something he used to for years, music. This time it was dance music. It had saved his life when contemplating suicide on a interstate; 'Bingo Players - Cry (just a little)' came on, he wailed, and cursed the heavens for giving him these outcomes. He heard some more songs and learned about DAWs, it was how many people in this new generation were creating music. He started listening to productions and sounds, again. Then, when he started to get more into it, he could see the old styles he learned being put to use at large festivals and events. This was what he was meant to do. He started researching, learning, and creating different ideas. He lived alone, slept on the floor, and worked again, but he found himself. That same kid that he shut out who loved music, was still there and wanting to help him get over his hurt. With this he performed his first show. The emotions, the feeling, and even the energy in the air, it varied. People could feel what he went through, what he wanted to say, and what he shouted on three different occasions he tried to commit suicide. Anger, Sadness, Joy, all of these could be felt as they danced, they all danced to music he created, and he just wanted to give back that hope he found playing for him on the radio when he tried to die. He was happy, again. His story continues, and hopefully he finds more success in his life, creating the thing he loves, music.

  • Horace Wintheiser Reply

    Finished mostly contract related stuff this week. Finished **Zoku Natsume Yuujinchou**. Didn't like it as much as the first season, but that's mostly due to personal preference I feel. It's still absolutely excellent. I usually like Natsume Yuujinchou when it's more about character interaction between established characters more than it's evocative episodic vignettes, and I feel this second season is a bit more heavy in the latter than the former. I also felt that the central theme of this season (finding connection between prejudice and arbitrary seperation) didn't resonate with me as well as the one in season 1. That being said, the show still has alot of strength in it's atmosphere and sense of character community. The characters have an unspoken understanding of one each other that's really refreshing to see in anime. Natsume and Madara in particular have such great chemistry together. This season is also alot stronger from a visual perspective. The lineart is cleaner, the animation is more impressive, and the shot composition feels alot more striking. Overall, still excellent. **9/10** Finished Season 1 of K-on!. Honestly, I'm a little disappointed? Like, it's still good, but it wasn't the pinnacle of Cute Girls Doing Cute Things that I kinda expected it to be. It definitely still has some pretty serious strength, though. I pretty honestly think it's the best looking KyoAni shows I've ever seen. Even more than it's later more dramatic work like Chuunibyou and Sound Euphonium. The show has absolutely great character designs and the show really knows how to animate them to convey character emotion and character traits. The show is also extremely well directed. Shots are always evocative and dynamic in a way that really takes advantage of the animated medium. The show really tries to avoid the sterile "talking head" direction of other 4-koma shows like Lucky Star. The show also knows how to use direction to convey atmosphere, using clever focus of background elements and great lighting. I guess to summarize the previous paragraph, I think that K-on! is an absolutely stellar adaptation. The problem is that I'm not a huge fan of the material being adapted. Even for a CGDCT show, I feel that the characters are a little too cutesy and soft-edged. I'm not entirely sure why I feel this way specifically to K-on! (maybe due to how they're a rock band?), but I felt the characters to be too "designed to be cute" for me to truly immerse myself in the atmosphere. The show does a great job of creating that sort of friendly, relaxed atmosphere through it's aforementioned great direction, but I feel that it sometimes breaks the atmosphere too hard to make jokes. Sawako periodically forcing the club to wear weird costumes was something that I couldn't really suspend my disbelief for and that kind of made me a bit uncomfortable, and the scene during the first school festival performance, [K-on!](/s "where Mio falls down and reveals her underwear after getting the courage to sing in front of a large audience, made me extremely angry.") Overall, I found it a show with pretty serious strengths and pretty serious weaknesses. *7/10* Finished **Angel's Egg**. It was absolutely great. It was such a breathtaking and cleanly directed piece of art. I also really like the way it went about exploring it's themes through symbolism. My interpretation of the show was that it was about the role that faith and religion plays in our modern world, and the struggle between the need for faith and the need for objective truths. The main ideological conflict between the main characters were mostly about faith. The girl being an individual with very strong faith and trust. Even without proof, she believes that the egg she carries holds an angel and puts all of her effort into taking care of it and performing rituals out of respect for it (the bottles of waters that line the area). It's clear that she's been doing this same routine for as long as she remembers, but because it gives her purpose her faith never falters. The boy on the other hand, represents an individual who has lost his faith in god. It's clear that he, like the girl, has spent his life serving what he believed in, and has been injured serving his faith, as seen by the bandages that he wears. We can see in the beginning how the girl's hands turn into his, symbolizing this transformation. However, he has lost his faith and belief in a just god, and now searches for an objective proof in a higher power. He still respects and loves the complete devotion that the girl has (as seen in the absolutely great scene where he puts the girl to bed), but his need for that proof still causes to betray the girl and break the egg. In the end the egg is empty. The girl has been worshipping nothing real. I feel one of the big themes of the movie is the mutability of reality and how the limits of human perception makes finding objective truth without faith impossible. One of the big recurring symbols is water and how it reflects and refracts perception. At the beginning, when the girl first looks through the bottle filled with water, the view of the world she sees through that "lens" is one that's muddied, constantly changing, and blurry. I feel that the movie is constantly reinforcing that the "solid" world is the exact same way. It constantly uses water related symbolism and ripple patterns to create that connection. I feel the most striking moment for me, was when the protagonists walk in front of the warped metal fence. The man-made structure of the building and fence warp the same way the trees did when viewed from the bottle of water during the scene in the forest. Of course, there's a whole lot more to the movie than that. I think it also deals with things like how the march of technology and human advancement is dangerous, how the rich and powerful takes advantage of the faith of the disenfranchised for their own gain, and the type of presumptuous confidence that goes with assuming that the higher power is something that you can understand. And there are definitely parts that I don't have a good grasp on. The fetal and egg symbolism as related to the "Noah's Ark" that the movie believes that humanity is trapped in, is something I definitely want to unwrap. It's really such a phenomenally dense movie despite being so atmosphere focused and slowly paced, and it really allows for so much different interpretations. (The review you wrote is something I didn't really think about, but makes alot of sense) I absolutely love it. It's really special when you find something like this with such a strong thematic base that still manages to evoke human emotions well. *10/10*

  • Odell Reinger Reply

    You certainly *can* do it, but it's not the same life your friends with steady incomes will have - there are no benefits if you get sick, no steady increase in salary as you gain experience (at least, not as much of a straight line as a day job would have), no 401k. You will most likely need to diversify what you do - perform, teach, record, maybe work the tech side of things, perhaps retail as well. The more skills you bring to the table, the better your chances of making an actual living. For a time at your age I was able to make a decent living just in music. That included playing 4 or 5 nights a week, teaching, touring with a group a few months out of the year, and session work when I could get it. I made enough to pay rent, build my savings, and didn't want for much. I lived extremely cheap, though - my apartment at the time (1986) was $250/month, furnished, and included utilities. That should tell you all you need to know about the neighborhood and condition of the building. I could deal with South Carolina summers without AC much better than I could some soul-crushing entry-level desk job or working in the restaurant industry, though, so it was a good trade off for me. That's not to say you have to live in a rat hole, but the lifestyle isn't one that comes with a lot of luxuries. Nor is it particularly good for families or relationships. In fact, it's hell on them especially if you start being successful and start traveling. Being a working/traveling musician can be treacherous waters. There are plenty of dishonest people out there. It can be very lonely and boring. When you add up being away from home for weeks at a time with boredom, lack of accountability, and a general party atmosphere, your emotional vulnerabilities will be really exposed and it's all too easy to indulge in bad stuff. So, if that's the life you plan on leading better have your shit together (and not to sound ageist, but at 18 nobody has their shit together, so you better be surrounded by reasonable healthy people or shit can go sideways really quick). Now, with that being said, there are plenty of people that are working musicians and that's all they do and they make good livings. Here in New Orleans, the city is full of them (because we have a culture that will support that). One of my dear friends was a practicing attorney and shifted her entire income over to playing piano and singing dollar for dollar. She works like a dog (6 nights a week, plus the occasional student and sometimes day gigs and weddings as well) but she loves her life. Another good friend of mine played Bourbon St for decades, put together various acts that got some national exposure, and now plays with a renowned band (you've probably heard of them) that lets him travel all over the world, but he still has to play sit-in gigs and Bourbon St, work as a producer, and sometimes teach to round out his income. You have to be smart, dedicated, and willing to give up some short term luxuries to do this gig and do it in a way that is healthy and responsible. It requires a good bit of hustle, some luck, excellent people skills, and a large dose of humility. It also means being emotionally and intellectually mature and building relationships with people who are the same. I've known far too many good players (and myself, for that matter, though the "good" part is debatable) who have been undone because of a boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse who couldn't deal with the lifestyle of a working musician or because the life was incompatible with a family. So, if you have a girl/boyfriend now better make sure they're cool with you being busy, broke, and unavailable on weekends for a while before you jump into music as a profession. You also need to be supremely professional about how you go about things - it's no longer exclusively an activity you do for fun when you feel like it. You have to treat it like a job because...well...it is. That means you're on time, respond to communication in a timely manner, conduct yourself as a professional when you're working (this includes rehearsals!), are prepared, easy to work with, and willing to support the team. There's very little room for prima-donnas usually, especially with guitar which is an instrument that is so common. You'll also notice that I left out something that most think is an absolute requirement, but it really isn't - being a guitar genius or having jaw-dropping chops. Yes you have to be skilled, definitely but flexibility is probably more important, and professionalism is the most important of all. Anyway, I suppose the TL/DR is this: it can be done, but no one ever said "I have bills to pay so I guess I better start playing guitar". If it's something you love, go for it, but don't expect a steady career path or much stability for a while.

  • Krista Rippin Reply

    Well these are some examples from my personal life and I'll just replace our real names with PC#: **Early Childhood** PC1's family moved to town when they were a young child and PC2 was their neighbor so they became friends. PC2 is 2 years older than PC1 and PC1 looks up to PC2 as the "example". Its a small town and all PCs were raised fairly religious. PC1's dad is a little overweight and likes to cut grass in only his shorts(think 1960ish basketball shorts). PC1's friends were though it was funny and would jokingly mock PC1 for it. PC2 makes a friend in school(PC3) that recently moved to town and starts bringing him along to play when PC2 is invited over to PC1's house. PC1 doesn't like PC3 because he is jealous that he isn't PC2's only friend anymore. PC3 turns out to be a really cool guy and after a while PC1 decides to be his friends too. [We loved Star Wars so just convert this over to your world's equivalent.] We used to play Star Wars, PC1 and PC2 liked to play the Sith while PC3 and PC4 liked to play the Jedi. We would always leap around on the hay bails with our plastic lightsaber and pretend to force blast each other off or just beat each other with the lightsabers. PC2 and PC3 both get pet dogs so PC1 starts begging his parents for a dog until they eventually mom breaks and gets one while dad is at work. [He was not happy when he got home...] PC2 and PC3 eventually get bored with their dog but PC1 starts bringing his puppy(affectionately named Boots because of her distinct paw color) with him everywhere he goes. It floods one winter in PC2s back yard and the next day temperatures drop and it freezes over making a free ski rink in PC2s back yard that PC1 and PC3 go play on. PC1 brings his puppy who has an adorably hard time walking on the ice. **Teen** All the PCs joined marching band and enjoyed going to competitions at other schools. PC1 starts dating a girl that PC2 and PC3 don't like. They warn PC1 about her but he doesn't listen. She cheats on PC1 so they break up. PC3 gets put in detention because he called her a bitch at lunch. PC2 starts dating PC5's sister, PC6. PC5 doesn't like it because he thinks PC2 only started being his friend to get close to PC6(Not true but its what happened). [Also PC2 and PC6 continue to have a surprisingly storybook relationship to this day.] PC3 is kind of a player and dates a lot of girls. Considers himself a romantic aficionado even though they always break his heart. PC1 and PC2 mock him for it. PC3 introduces PC1 to a card game (Magic the Gathering) that very briefly consumes PC1 as he strives to collect cards. A lot of allowance money may have been sunk into this... PC2's parents get divorced. PC1 and PC3 help him through it. PC1 dates the previously mentioned girl again...she breaks his heart again...PC3 calls her a bitch again so the same effect... PC1 gets made fun of a lot by classmates. PC2 and PC3 don't know about it because they are older and in a different grade. PC1 feels distant and alone due to this. It gets to the point that PC1 contemplates suicide and writes a letter about. PC2 finds the letter before it happens and confronts PC1 and teaches him to stop holding it in and "like the Sith" let the anger, sadness, and emotion be your power not your encumbers. PC1 gets detention the next day because he gave the bully a black eye. PC3 starts dating another girl, this time long term. PC3 is really happy and loves her a lot. The girl starts flirting with PC2 behind PC3's back. PC2 tells PC3 about this and PC3 confronts and breaks up with her. PC1 doesn't like his hometown and wants to leave but PC2 and PC3 want to stay close because its were their family is. PC2 and PC3 also have big families that live near by were as PC1 is an only child and the rest of his family lives elsewhere. **Early Adulthood** PC1 joins the military and is deployed overseas. PC2 goes to college and afterwards starts training to be a State Trooper. PC3 goes to college but doesn't enjoy it so he gets a job. PC2 and PC3 live together during college and after. PC6 is still in college but stays with PC2 most nights. PC1 keeps in contact with PC2 and PC3 often and makes time for them when he visits. PC2 starts training as a State Trooper (para-military training) and goes to "boot camp". Writes to PC1 about how difficult it is and what PC1 did to get through actual military boot camp. PC1 writes back best advice he can give and hopes it helps his friend. PC1 sees how people in less under developed nations struggle and loses faith in his god. PC1 is scarred to tell anyone back home for fear that they will get angry at him. Eventually PC1 tells PC2, PC3, and PC6 about this, they are mildly disappointed that their friend has lost faith but(thankfully) value their friendship more than that. There is a lot more I could write but I think I'll leave it there. This is the story of me and my two best friends growing up but if your party is larger you should easily be able to swap out numbers. Thank you for requesting help with this it really got me thinking about the past and what really brought me and my friends together...

  • Corine Smitham Reply

    Hi guys! Here is an interview Sophie did with The Sunday Times a few months ago. Hi guys! Here is an interview Sophie did with The Sunday Times a few months ago. I don't know if you can access the interview in full from the link so I am posting a transcript (and link) below. Stark contrast: teen actress Sophie Turner She plays serious Sansa in Game of Thrones, but in reality she loves clubbing and doing shots. As the hit series returns, Sophie Turner talks about boys and becoming a badass It’s fair to say that if you meet Sophie Turner expecting her to resemble Sansa Stark, the long-suffering queen she plays in Game of Thrones, you’re in for a bit of a shock. Sansa is quiet: one imagines her tucked up in her four-poster by 9pm most nights, unless someone is trying to assassinate her — again. Sophie, on the other hand, bounces up to our interview not having gone to bed until four that morning. “I sleep in until 3pm most days that I’m not working,” she fizzes, all red hair and Duracell energy. “I’m big on London clubbing — not posh places, because heels are not my thing, obviously.” She gestures at her 5ft 9in frame, clad in a cool-nerd chic: charity-shop sweatshirt, high-waisted jeans, horn-rim glasses and Nikes. “But I love partying. I’m a party girl.” Fortunately, she is not hung over. “I don’t drink much, because I don’t really like alcohol, so I have shots. That’s the fastest way to get a night going, isn’t it?” The 19-year-old British actress has every right to live it up. Next month, she stars in X-Men: Apocalypse as the young telepath, Jean Grey, her highest profile Hollywood film so far. She has also just been cast as Mary Shelley in Mary Shelley’s Monster, a reworking of the Frankenstein story. And this month brings the sixth season of Game of Thrones, in which she finally gets to assert herself as her character kicks ass. “In season six, Sansa takes command,” she says. “It’s her season. And lots of other characters’, of course,” she adds, not wanting to sound like a bighead. For the uninitiated, Game of Thrones is a blockbuster, fantasy-cum-medieval-history TV series, essentially Dallas meets The Lord of the Rings, with Sansa as a Sue Ellen-Galadriel hybrid. It’s stuffed with violence, power struggles, dragons and nasty sex (the first time Mr and Mrs Turner visited Sophie on set, she was filming an attempted gang rape scene), and great cliffhangers. The burning question about the new season is whether Sansa’s heart-throb half-brother Jon Snow (Kit Harington) somehow returns after being murdered. Leaks say he will: Turner is tight(-ish) of lip. “For now, he’s dead. Who knows about the future?” She has more to say about the lingering controversy around Sansa’s rape by her new husband, Ramsay Bolton, in season five. Some people thought it gratuitous (it wasn’t really in the novels on which the series is based), others objected to the camera showing the distress of a watching male rather than Sansa’s reaction. “The camera shot was meant to show that she and Theon [the male onlooker] were both helpless. The thing is, Game of Thrones does not shy away from the reality of what happened in those times,” she says, talking about the show more as a historical drama than a fantasy. “The oppression of women happened, and rape still happens, particularly in wars and arranged marriages. Why is there so much attention when it happens on television and not when it happens in the real world? It happens every day all over the world and you never hear about it.” Her childhood was spent far from wars, dungeons and arranged marriages, in a big house with a paddock and outbuildings in a small village in rural Warwickshire. Little Sophie was a dedicated Belieber with a wall full of posters, a big fan of Friends, and a member of a theatre workshop. Her dad worked as a manager for an international pallet distributor, her two older brothers taught her to love wrestling and PlayStation games, and her mum was a nursery nurse who quit her job to travel with Sophie when she landed the Thrones gig, aged 14. She and the other child actors had school lessons on set, and it was strange when her mum took her back home. “On set, you’re treated very much like an adult, so then you go back to school and you’re suddenly back to being a little schoolgirl, getting told off if you’re naughty. It’s a totally different mindset.” Especially if you’ve been a queen. “Yes,” she laughs. “Albeit an oppressed one.” She has recently moved from Warwickshire to Belsize Park in north London, but mum and dad still look after most of her money, which — as with all the leads — has increased as the show has become a hit. Her fee is reliably reported to be well north of $500,000 (£350,000) a series, though she and co-star Maisie Williams remain outside the $300,000-an-episode top tier of stars such as Peter Dinklage, who plays Tyrion Lannister, and Lena Headey, who is Queen Cersei. She is good friends with Harington, and very close to Williams, but her clubbing posse are mainly old schoolfriends who are now at university. She would have liked to study herself, she says, history or psychology, but maybe she’ll come to that later. Listening to her describing her idyllic childhood in her middling-posh but transatlantic-ised actor accent, one is reminded of a notorious Thrones anomaly. She and Williams, who plays Sansa’s sister Arya, have southern accents while their Stark brothers are flatly northern. The official line is that the girls take after their RP-toned mother, but in fact, she confesses, it was because “Maisie and I couldn’t do it. We were given voice coaching to have northern accents, but we — well, it was me, really — went way too broad.” She gamely gives a demonstration; it sounds like Sarah Lancashire impersonating Vera Duckworth while eating tripe. Fortunately, the American accent of the young Jean Grey came more easily. Turner has already done a handful of modestly successful movies, but she watched Famke Janssen in the X-Men movies as a girl, and starring in one has been a long-held ambition. Apart from anything else, she thinks it will show her range, and help avoid her being typecast as Sansa (“though it’s been a privilege to have had that character. I’ve grown up with her”). It has also enabled her to acquire a new skill, although this was a mixed blessing. As Grey is an archer, she had to learn how to shoot a bow and arrow; she could have shown off with that, except for the cruel twist of fate which led to her co-starring with the world’s most famous bow-dextrous actress, Jennifer Lawrence, who as Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games franchise, was never without a quiver. “It was really enjoyable doing something with, you know, apparatus,” she says. “But of course, everyone was, like, ‘You’re not as good as Jen, though.’” When the X-Men: Apocalypse trailer came out, she received a lot of calls and emails “from people getting back in touch with me. Especially” — she laughs, self-deprecatingly — “boys, going, like, ‘Hey Sophie… do you fancy going out sometime?’” She didn’t take up the offers. “It’s funny when men approach me,” she says, seeming almost embarrassed. “Because most of them know what I do and you never know where they’re coming from. It’s difficult.” She had a brief fling with James McVey, from the band the Vamps, after he tweeted her to say he liked her, but since then, she’s swerved relationships. “The only relationship I’ve had is with someone who was in the industry, and I think if I dated someone who wasn’t, the difference would inhibit the relationship, just because you’re constantly travelling. Also, you never know if people really like you for you. Someone who’s been in that situation themselves understands. I suppose you find a way to work things out.” This sounds rather gloomy, but she’s just thoughtful. Is she single at the moment? “Yes,” she replies with a wry grin. “I’m a single-pringle! And ready to mingle!” Would she mingle in Hollywood? “No, I just can’t do LA. I love the weather, but it’s almost like everyone’s too polite. I like the sarcasm in Britain. And anyway, I always wanted to move to London because it’s where everything is, where everything is happening. I’m trying to be more cultured, and to explore it. I just want to make the most of it. To make the most of everything, really.” Game of Thrones returns to Sky Atlantic on Monday, April 25 at 9pm. X-Men: Apocalypse opens on May 19 Here is the link: http://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/stark-contrast-teen-actress-sophie-turner-x38kjxqcv

  • Rubye Graham Reply

    He posted an update Link to Original Post(https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4zlxxa/am_i_27m_wrong_to_feel_bad_about_the_fact_that_my/) I want to thank Reddit for the many eye-opening suggestions and comments about my relationship with "Ingrid." I should clarify that I have had second thoughts about her for a while, especially when she moved in. When she did move in, she gave me the impression that she was making a lot more money from her music gigs than was actually the case. I realize I probably should have, but I never spelled out what her financial responsibilities would be if she moved into my apartment. She strongly implied that she would pay SOMETHING at least. Maybe cook or clean, but she never really did. Although she probably couldn't pay half the rent (my apartment in Manhattan costs over seven Gs a month (although, lucky me, my employer pays for half and therefore my rent is "only" thirty-five hundred) and she probably didn't make that much over the last two years combined. Over the following days and weeks it became apparent that she wasn't really a worker and she admitted that her parents gave her money regularly, to the tune of nearly two thousand dollars a month. For a thirty-one year old, grown woman. Meanwhile her parents live in a two bedroom apartment of their own, so it's not like they're Richie Rich over there with a mansion. She had broken up with her ex, she told me, and he sank into a drug spiral over the following year and that led to his overdose. His death inspired her lyrics, she said. She sings but doesn't play any instruments. I play the guitar and violin quite well thanks to my parents forcing me to learn as a kid (I can play most popular songs and American standards on cue if asked), but Ingrid didn't like for me to ever do anything cheesy or cutesy like making a boyfriend girlfriend band, or even just jam with me. I realize I was with Ingrid because I have really low self-esteem. I'm still young and I'm in good shape and well-exercised, I'm a college graduate and make good money living in a really pricey zip code, but I have low standards for myself because I don't see myself as valuable. I never really thought too hard about it, but now I see it's ridiculous that Ingrid is almost five years older than me but our relationship dynamic is like she's an irresponsible child and I'm her sensible father. Insanity. My ex who died in a car accident four years ago (she was only 24) was probably the only woman I ever dated who really respected me and loved me for who I am and not because I have money and can fund her Sex and the City "Looka-me, I live in Manhattan..." lifestyle. But she is a part of my past and I have to let her go and move on. That's one of the things I bonded with when I first met Ingrid: we were both hurt after losing a loved one. That's why it hurt so much for Ingrid to tell me "I wouldn't understand" why she felt it necessary to put the guy's picture up in my house. It's like as the months went by, the relationship transformed from one between equals discovering new love for each other, to one of "I'm a sensitive, talented musician, and you're the benefactor who is privileged enough to pay my way through life, and to keep you placated I'll blow you on command and pretend I enjoy sleeping with you." I talk about Ingrid in the past tense, well, because let me continue. When I posted to Reddit last night after work I was pretty bummed because when I think about the sum total of our relationship, it was always me doing things for her, being there for her, basically being her sponge for all of her emotions and drama. This photo thing was just the latest in a long line of incidents where I just don't feel like I'm getting what I need from a girlfriend or wife. A key point in our relationship was when I got an award at my job for "employee of the year" last year. I was pretty happy because I was getting personally recognized at a big firm, and from what the boss tells me I am the youngest person to ever have gotten the award. I told Ingrid all about the upcoming ceremony, and she was ambivalent about it. "I'll go if I don't have a gig." She didn't go, and it was just my own coworkers clapping for me at the dinner and not my girlfriend. Where was she? Well she wasn't at a gig. She was just at home, writing lyrics. "It's just an employee of the month--" "YEAR" "--Yeah, well everyone gets one eventually just like student of the month." "..." Meanwhile, I make it a point to catch as many of her performances as possible to support her and clap. She doesn't really do much for me beyond physically. Emotionally and intellectually she is nowhere in life and we are just not a good match. She had opportunity after opportunity to get educated and get real work, but chose not to. She fears failure and so uses past tragedies and hardships as ready-made excuses for continued mediocrity, pretentiously labeling her laziness and lack of desire to succeed as being "lost in deep thought." I do not think she is an evil person but I just think she is spoiled, self-centered, and probably really narcissistic. She has had much in life just given to her because she plays a victim or because she's physically attractive. The latter will fade with time and then where will she be. Her attitude will remain and I do not like her attitude. I do not think she should destroy the picture of her ex but I think if she's going to live in my house without contributing anything and indirectly make me sign up for a gym membership because I can no longer use my treadmill at home while she is "reflecting on life," she should respect my feeling and my property. My deceased ex is gone and because I respect Ingrid I would not dream of showing a constant, visual reminder of my former girlfriend. My duty was to make myself available to Ingrid and give her my whole heart, not my heart that "settled" for her because I couldn't have what I really wanted. That would be unfair to Ingrid and unfair to myself. You honor the love you had for someone else, now gone, by loving yourself enough to be happy the way they would have wanted you to be. Chapters end and you don't have to forget them. Moving the bookmark forward, and forward, and forward and making new loves read, and constantly RE-READ old chapters that exclude them is just masochism. And further I think Ingrid liked to Narcissistically (that's not a word but I'm keeping it) harp on her ex-boyfriend's death because a humble-braggy part of her likes to gloat over the fact that he couldn't live without her awesomeness. It's actually kind of cringy the way she laments on him. And here I am thinking, didn't you tell me you broke up with him because he was abusive and stole from you and he cheated with an "ugly" girl? Why did I put up with it so long? Well, she's hot and the sex was good and because I didn't think I deserved better or could do better. A lot of what happened to me was my own fault. I cannot control what Ingrid does but I could always control my own actions. Until now I chose to do the wrong things. Doesn't mean I keep having to. After talking it over with a good friend last night (Ingrid didn't come home until late, didn't say where she was, maybe she was cheating on me, who knows) and also reading the comments here on Reddit, I decided that I needed to act. NOW. Not later. I've already waited too long and life is too short to waste it. Ingrid has a gig today from lunch time to about five at a local restaurant. There's a pianist and piano at the bar and Ingrid sings accompaniment to his playing. She will never get past the doorman because I told him and the concierge that she is no longer welcome. She isn't on the lease, is not a paying customer, and therefore they will do their duty. They have an inkling of what I'm doing and they were both like, "Hell yeah, dude." I also texted the concierge Ingrid's photo so that they could print it and put it in a stack of "do not admit entry" list, for the other doormen and concierges on their shifts.

  • Queen Blanda Reply

    Hi guys! Here is an interview Sophie did for The Sunday Times a few months ago. You can only view the whole interview if you or a family members receives The Sunday Times so I've left a transcript below. Stark contrast: teen actress Sophie Turner She plays serious Sansa in Game of Thrones, but in reality she loves clubbing and doing shots. As the hit series returns, Sophie Turner talks about boys and becoming a badass It’s fair to say that if you meet Sophie Turner expecting her to resemble Sansa Stark, the long-suffering queen she plays in Game of Thrones, you’re in for a bit of a shock. Sansa is quiet: one imagines her tucked up in her four-poster by 9pm most nights, unless someone is trying to assassinate her — again. Sophie, on the other hand, bounces up to our interview not having gone to bed until four that morning. “I sleep in until 3pm most days that I’m not working,” she fizzes, all red hair and Duracell energy. “I’m big on London clubbing — not posh places, because heels are not my thing, obviously.” She gestures at her 5ft 9in frame, clad in a cool-nerd chic: charity-shop sweatshirt, high-waisted jeans, horn-rim glasses and Nikes. “But I love partying. I’m a party girl.” Fortunately, she is not hung over. “I don’t drink much, because I don’t really like alcohol, so I have shots. That’s the fastest way to get a night going, isn’t it?” The 19-year-old British actress has every right to live it up. Next month, she stars in X-Men: Apocalypse as the young telepath, Jean Grey, her highest profile Hollywood film so far. She has also just been cast as Mary Shelley in Mary Shelley’s Monster, a reworking of the Frankenstein story. And this month brings the sixth season of Game of Thrones, in which she finally gets to assert herself as her character kicks ass. “In season six, Sansa takes command,” she says. “It’s her season. And lots of other characters’, of course,” she adds, not wanting to sound like a bighead. For the uninitiated, Game of Thrones is a blockbuster, fantasy-cum-medieval-history TV series, essentially Dallas meets The Lord of the Rings, with Sansa as a Sue Ellen-Galadriel hybrid. It’s stuffed with violence, power struggles, dragons and nasty sex (the first time Mr and Mrs Turner visited Sophie on set, she was filming an attempted gang rape scene), and great cliffhangers. The burning question about the new season is whether Sansa’s heart-throb half-brother Jon Snow (Kit Harington) somehow returns after being murdered. Leaks say he will: Turner is tight(-ish) of lip. “For now, he’s dead. Who knows about the future?” She has more to say about the lingering controversy around Sansa’s rape by her new husband, Ramsay Bolton, in season five. Some people thought it gratuitous (it wasn’t really in the novels on which the series is based), others objected to the camera showing the distress of a watching male rather than Sansa’s reaction. “The camera shot was meant to show that she and Theon [the male onlooker] were both helpless. The thing is, Game of Thrones does not shy away from the reality of what happened in those times,” she says, talking about the show more as a historical drama than a fantasy. “The oppression of women happened, and rape still happens, particularly in wars and arranged marriages. Why is there so much attention when it happens on television and not when it happens in the real world? It happens every day all over the world and you never hear about it.” Her childhood was spent far from wars, dungeons and arranged marriages, in a big house with a paddock and outbuildings in a small village in rural Warwickshire. Little Sophie was a dedicated Belieber with a wall full of posters, a big fan of Friends, and a member of a theatre workshop. Her dad worked as a manager for an international pallet distributor, her two older brothers taught her to love wrestling and PlayStation games, and her mum was a nursery nurse who quit her job to travel with Sophie when she landed the Thrones gig, aged 14. She and the other child actors had school lessons on set, and it was strange when her mum took her back home. “On set, you’re treated very much like an adult, so then you go back to school and you’re suddenly back to being a little schoolgirl, getting told off if you’re naughty. It’s a totally different mindset.” Especially if you’ve been a queen. “Yes,” she laughs. “Albeit an oppressed one.” She has recently moved from Warwickshire to Belsize Park in north London, but mum and dad still look after most of her money, which — as with all the leads — has increased as the show has become a hit. Her fee is reliably reported to be well north of $500,000 (£350,000) a series, though she and co-star Maisie Williams remain outside the $300,000-an-episode top tier of stars such as Peter Dinklage, who plays Tyrion Lannister, and Lena Headey, who is Queen Cersei. She is good friends with Harington, and very close to Williams, but her clubbing posse are mainly old schoolfriends who are now at university. She would have liked to study herself, she says, history or psychology, but maybe she’ll come to that later. Listening to her describing her idyllic childhood in her middling-posh but transatlantic-ised actor accent, one is reminded of a notorious Thrones anomaly. She and Williams, who plays Sansa’s sister Arya, have southern accents while their Stark brothers are flatly northern. The official line is that the girls take after their RP-toned mother, but in fact, she confesses, it was because “Maisie and I couldn’t do it. We were given voice coaching to have northern accents, but we — well, it was me, really — went way too broad.” She gamely gives a demonstration; it sounds like Sarah Lancashire impersonating Vera Duckworth while eating tripe. Fortunately, the American accent of the young Jean Grey came more easily. Turner has already done a handful of modestly successful movies, but she watched Famke Janssen in the X-Men movies as a girl, and starring in one has been a long-held ambition. Apart from anything else, she thinks it will show her range, and help avoid her being typecast as Sansa (“though it’s been a privilege to have had that character. I’ve grown up with her”). It has also enabled her to acquire a new skill, although this was a mixed blessing. As Grey is an archer, she had to learn how to shoot a bow and arrow; she could have shown off with that, except for the cruel twist of fate which led to her co-starring with the world’s most famous bow-dextrous actress, Jennifer Lawrence, who as Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games franchise, was never without a quiver. “It was really enjoyable doing something with, you know, apparatus,” she says. “But of course, everyone was, like, ‘You’re not as good as Jen, though.’” When the X-Men: Apocalypse trailer came out, she received a lot of calls and emails “from people getting back in touch with me. Especially” — she laughs, self-deprecatingly — “boys, going, like, ‘Hey Sophie… do you fancy going out sometime?’” She didn’t take up the offers. “It’s funny when men approach me,” she says, seeming almost embarrassed. “Because most of them know what I do and you never know where they’re coming from. It’s difficult.” She had a brief fling with James McVey, from the band the Vamps, after he tweeted her to say he liked her, but since then, she’s swerved relationships. “The only relationship I’ve had is with someone who was in the industry, and I think if I dated someone who wasn’t, the difference would inhibit the relationship, just because you’re constantly travelling. Also, you never know if people really like you for you. Someone who’s been in that situation themselves understands. I suppose you find a way to work things out.” This sounds rather gloomy, but she’s just thoughtful. Is she single at the moment? “Yes,” she replies with a wry grin. “I’m a single-pringle! And ready to mingle!” Would she mingle in Hollywood? “No, I just can’t do LA. I love the weather, but it’s almost like everyone’s too polite. I like the sarcasm in Britain. And anyway, I always wanted to move to London because it’s where everything is, where everything is happening. I’m trying to be more cultured, and to explore it. I just want to make the most of it. To make the most of everything, really.” LINK: http://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/stark-contrast-teen-actress-sophie-turner-x38kjxqcv

  • Leonel Hodkiewicz Reply

    I used to be a swim instructor at my local YMCA. During our initial training we learned about signs of abuse and how to handle the situation if we suspected something. This YMCA had a pre-school within it that included swim lessons at the end of the day. I, along with 4 other instructors, taught the class by splitting into groups based on swimming skill. I wasn't at my job long when I noticed a very withdrawn little girl would show up with bruises and new Band-Aids for each class. She would always say she fell or that it happened at home. Not out of the ordinary at all. She was also abnormally small. I have a niece who was in the one percentile of size. She is perfectly healthy, just small. This girl was not like that. She was frail and bony. Most of the life vests we had on hand did not even fit this little girl. The poor child kept slipping out of it. There's a feeling you get where you wonder if you are overreacting to these things. As a 16 year old, I was nervous that if I brought it up, I would be told to not make such a wild assumption. I know now that all my co-workers had my back and wouldn't do such a thing (that YMCA job was like having a second family). I did end up saying something though, and my superior, a senior swim instructor, ended up talking to one of the preschool teachers about it. 3 weeks later it turns out the little girl had been in the custody of her father, who had been abusive and withholding food from her as punishments. I don't know the extent of the abuse or the entire situation. She ended up moving away - not sure if it was to live with her mother or another family member, but at least it was a happy ending. It was a valuable lesson to me that it is alright to be an advocate for others. I hope she has fully recovered from any trauma and loves to swim.

  • Carmella Kirlin Reply

    Hi guys! Here is an interview Sophie did with The Sunday Times a few months ago. I don't know if you can access the interview in full from the link so I am posting a transcript below. Stark contrast: teen actress Sophie Turner She plays serious Sansa in Game of Thrones, but in reality she loves clubbing and doing shots. As the hit series returns, Sophie Turner talks about boys and becoming a badass It’s fair to say that if you meet Sophie Turner expecting her to resemble Sansa Stark, the long-suffering queen she plays in Game of Thrones, you’re in for a bit of a shock. Sansa is quiet: one imagines her tucked up in her four-poster by 9pm most nights, unless someone is trying to assassinate her — again. Sophie, on the other hand, bounces up to our interview not having gone to bed until four that morning. “I sleep in until 3pm most days that I’m not working,” she fizzes, all red hair and Duracell energy. “I’m big on London clubbing — not posh places, because heels are not my thing, obviously.” She gestures at her 5ft 9in frame, clad in a cool-nerd chic: charity-shop sweatshirt, high-waisted jeans, horn-rim glasses and Nikes. “But I love partying. I’m a party girl.” Fortunately, she is not hung over. “I don’t drink much, because I don’t really like alcohol, so I have shots. That’s the fastest way to get a night going, isn’t it?” The 19-year-old British actress has every right to live it up. Next month, she stars in X-Men: Apocalypse as the young telepath, Jean Grey, her highest profile Hollywood film so far. She has also just been cast as Mary Shelley in Mary Shelley’s Monster, a reworking of the Frankenstein story. And this month brings the sixth season of Game of Thrones, in which she finally gets to assert herself as her character kicks ass. “In season six, Sansa takes command,” she says. “It’s her season. And lots of other characters’, of course,” she adds, not wanting to sound like a bighead. For the uninitiated, Game of Thrones is a blockbuster, fantasy-cum-medieval-history TV series, essentially Dallas meets The Lord of the Rings, with Sansa as a Sue Ellen-Galadriel hybrid. It’s stuffed with violence, power struggles, dragons and nasty sex (the first time Mr and Mrs Turner visited Sophie on set, she was filming an attempted gang rape scene), and great cliffhangers. The burning question about the new season is whether Sansa’s heart-throb half-brother Jon Snow (Kit Harington) somehow returns after being murdered. Leaks say he will: Turner is tight(-ish) of lip. “For now, he’s dead. Who knows about the future?” She has more to say about the lingering controversy around Sansa’s rape by her new husband, Ramsay Bolton, in season five. Some people thought it gratuitous (it wasn’t really in the novels on which the series is based), others objected to the camera showing the distress of a watching male rather than Sansa’s reaction. “The camera shot was meant to show that she and Theon [the male onlooker] were both helpless. The thing is, Game of Thrones does not shy away from the reality of what happened in those times,” she says, talking about the show more as a historical drama than a fantasy. “The oppression of women happened, and rape still happens, particularly in wars and arranged marriages. Why is there so much attention when it happens on television and not when it happens in the real world? It happens every day all over the world and you never hear about it.” Her childhood was spent far from wars, dungeons and arranged marriages, in a big house with a paddock and outbuildings in a small village in rural Warwickshire. Little Sophie was a dedicated Belieber with a wall full of posters, a big fan of Friends, and a member of a theatre workshop. Her dad worked as a manager for an international pallet distributor, her two older brothers taught her to love wrestling and PlayStation games, and her mum was a nursery nurse who quit her job to travel with Sophie when she landed the Thrones gig, aged 14. She and the other child actors had school lessons on set, and it was strange when her mum took her back home. “On set, you’re treated very much like an adult, so then you go back to school and you’re suddenly back to being a little schoolgirl, getting told off if you’re naughty. It’s a totally different mindset.” Especially if you’ve been a queen. “Yes,” she laughs. “Albeit an oppressed one.” She has recently moved from Warwickshire to Belsize Park in north London, but mum and dad still look after most of her money, which — as with all the leads — has increased as the show has become a hit. Her fee is reliably reported to be well north of $500,000 (£350,000) a series, though she and co-star Maisie Williams remain outside the $300,000-an-episode top tier of stars such as Peter Dinklage, who plays Tyrion Lannister, and Lena Headey, who is Queen Cersei. She is good friends with Harington, and very close to Williams, but her clubbing posse are mainly old schoolfriends who are now at university. She would have liked to study herself, she says, history or psychology, but maybe she’ll come to that later. Listening to her describing her idyllic childhood in her middling-posh but transatlantic-ised actor accent, one is reminded of a notorious Thrones anomaly. She and Williams, who plays Sansa’s sister Arya, have southern accents while their Stark brothers are flatly northern. The official line is that the girls take after their RP-toned mother, but in fact, she confesses, it was because “Maisie and I couldn’t do it. We were given voice coaching to have northern accents, but we — well, it was me, really — went way too broad.” She gamely gives a demonstration; it sounds like Sarah Lancashire impersonating Vera Duckworth while eating tripe. Fortunately, the American accent of the young Jean Grey came more easily. Turner has already done a handful of modestly successful movies, but she watched Famke Janssen in the X-Men movies as a girl, and starring in one has been a long-held ambition. Apart from anything else, she thinks it will show her range, and help avoid her being typecast as Sansa (“though it’s been a privilege to have had that character. I’ve grown up with her”). It has also enabled her to acquire a new skill, although this was a mixed blessing. As Grey is an archer, she had to learn how to shoot a bow and arrow; she could have shown off with that, except for the cruel twist of fate which led to her co-starring with the world’s most famous bow-dextrous actress, Jennifer Lawrence, who as Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games franchise, was never without a quiver. “It was really enjoyable doing something with, you know, apparatus,” she says. “But of course, everyone was, like, ‘You’re not as good as Jen, though.’” When the X-Men: Apocalypse trailer came out, she received a lot of calls and emails “from people getting back in touch with me. Especially” — she laughs, self-deprecatingly — “boys, going, like, ‘Hey Sophie… do you fancy going out sometime?’” She didn’t take up the offers. “It’s funny when men approach me,” she says, seeming almost embarrassed. “Because most of them know what I do and you never know where they’re coming from. It’s difficult.” She had a brief fling with James McVey, from the band the Vamps, after he tweeted her to say he liked her, but since then, she’s swerved relationships. “The only relationship I’ve had is with someone who was in the industry, and I think if I dated someone who wasn’t, the difference would inhibit the relationship, just because you’re constantly travelling. Also, you never know if people really like you for you. Someone who’s been in that situation themselves understands. I suppose you find a way to work things out.” This sounds rather gloomy, but she’s just thoughtful. Is she single at the moment? “Yes,” she replies with a wry grin. “I’m a single-pringle! And ready to mingle!” Would she mingle in Hollywood? “No, I just can’t do LA. I love the weather, but it’s almost like everyone’s too polite. I like the sarcasm in Britain. And anyway, I always wanted to move to London because it’s where everything is, where everything is happening. I’m trying to be more cultured, and to explore it. I just want to make the most of it. To make the most of everything, really.” Game of Thrones returns to Sky Atlantic on Monday, April 25 at 9pm. X-Men: Apocalypse opens on May 19

  • Aron Rau Reply

    Well the song itself is quite good. I think it's one of the most interesting pieces on Culture Scars if we are looking at the music and arrangement alone. It has really neat tones, an incredible groove, and a great vocal melody. I love the arrangement to bits as well, which really bums me out because it's hard for me to listen to this song. The problem for me, and me alone, lies with the lyrics and meaning. The song is about a girl coerced into doing pornography under the impression that she will get the acting or modeling work she wants if she does this pornography or sleeps with the casting guy or whatever. This song is referencing a real thing that happens but it perpetuates it on a large scale and demonizes and entire legitimate industry with people who are happy to be performing sexual acts and get paid for it, people who are completely consenting and aware of whats happening in advance. It also, based on a few of the lyrics, seems to enable quite a few archaic viewpoints on sexuality itself. It seems like Donovan is trying to say the right things in the wrong way. The reason this song strikes close to home with me is because my girlfriend is a porn star. She has been in the industry for over a year, has gained a huge following and gets tons of work. Her and I together travel all over the place while she films pornography and I focus on my passions and goals and her traveling really aids me in that. She loves her job. I've been in the industry a little bit as well and with our combined experiences and knowledge we've learned so much about the industry. It's not really like what any expects. This song describes a situation which doesn't really exist in real pornography. Like their are "modeling agents" out there who coerce girls into doing "porn" in the promise that she'll get work... but it isn't so much an "entertainment lie" as much as it's a douchebag with a camera filming himself fucking a girl that he lied to and she believed him. You will rarely see these videos online. Because it's basically evidence of a crime. These people don't work in entertainment they are just liars, they would be blacklisted so fast in the industry. BY THE WAY super easy to get your self black listed in the porn industry, they don't fuck around with people who lie and abuse people. In the porn industry, literally everything is fake, you can stage situations and have real moments but it's pretty much all planned out. The girls know that they will be having sex, always. They have to be filmed saying they are sober and aware of where they are and what they are about to do, they have to sign papers that explicitly state they are going to be having sex on camera, it usually describes it, and that video is the company's property, they get a one time payment. It's a lot of fucking paperwork and verbal agreements before the camera even starts rolling. It's all acting once the video shows up and they pretend they are just meeting this casting agent. Like my gf, her first Casting Agent video was shot 4 months after her career started and she was already in a ton of stuff. So this song doesn't make sense to me, how can this girl be coerced by the entertainment industry, sounds like a fake agent to me. Why is this song trying to take a stance against the entertainment machine when it should be saying, don't lie and use people. Why does it then use a line like "A parents heart attack" I get the sentiment but sex is fine, choosing to work as adult entertainer is a legitimate job, parents don't own their children's sexuality, that's wrong. The song seems misogynistic. It seems to put people in the sex industry into a less than category. It seems to miss the actual problem described in the song. It really demonizes sexuality and seems extremely preachy to me. Like the line "Another Dream Gone" well, how? What dream is lost? A a dream of not being taken advantage of? Like she was trying to get famous and then took the first offer from some guy and she's now damaged goods, it just seems Donovan is mad at the act and not the individuals lying and taking at advantage of someone. And the lyrics use works that seem he's referring to all of these directors but most of porn is just acting between two consenting people. They just make it look like she's being "taken advantage of" it's like he doesn't see the act in most of it. Pictures just do half the justice telling of the crime. Lewd director taking his sweet time Talent buyers violate Damnit they all get away Moral anguish nauseates [Verse 4] Another one (trapped again) It's so calculated Demonstrate entitled behavior In the culture, in the culture Pictures actually don't tell half the crime, they make a crime that didn't happen. I don't know man, I could go on and on about my problems with this song lyrically. I heard it and immediately knew it was targeting what my gf and I do to stay alive, and it's what we enjoy. The girls in the industry mainly enjoy what they do, the ones that don't leave. It takes a special kind of person to do what they do. Not everyone can do that, most never try but some do. That's the way most things go. Donovan is one of my favorite lyricists, this is literally the only song where I don't like his lyrics, and it's not that I think I'm right for sure and he's wrong, it's just how it makes me feel when I hear the words and think about them. and if he stands behind these lyrics and whatever statement he was trying to make, fine. Hail The Sun is still my favorite post hardcore, probably favorite new band overall currently. I love Culture Scars and all their other pieces. I think Wake is the best personally, Anti Eulogy being my favorite song. That album spoke to me a lot more, being afraid of death, curios about purpose and all that, it really resonated with me. Culture Scars did a bit too, but it seems a bit to pointed if you ask me.

  • Brant Schaefer Reply

    #Soundtrack Highlight [Fuyu no Hi (English: Winter Days)](https://clyp.it/h1at3bt4) - vocal by Hirasawa Yui, performed by Houkago Tea Time. This is the song that Mio was writing the lyrics for in this episode. We never get to hear it in the show, but fortunately it can be found in the album Houkago Tea Time II. *Romanji* > kiri soroeta kami ga totemo niatteru demo maegami wo oroshita kimi no sugata mo mite mitai > nani kara hanaseba ii no kana "suki" kara hajimete ii kana *English* > Your hairstyle really suits you. But I want to see how you look with your bangs down > I wonder what I should say. Is "I love you" a good way to start? Mio, just admit it. You *were* writing about Ritsu, weren't you?   #Who's the MVP? Oh boy this episode started out with a rather [strange and heavy mood,](http://imgur.com/e5yOtwN) very much unlike K-On. It seems everyone is effected by winter melancholy. Everyone except for Yui that is. So let's just this out of the way first, **Yui is the MVP here!** So let's look at what exactly have our girls been up to in this episode and why Yui was the winner: * Azusa helped out her friend (who actually has a name, but is not yet mentioned in the show) by taking on the responsibility of [watching over her cat](http://imgur.com/iFhKn8Q) on the weekend. Initially Azusa was neverous because animals seems have some kind of [aversion toward her,](http://imgur.com/KWBdjGO) so she was relieved to be able to [get close to Azunyan #2.](http://imgur.com/NKfjG4D) That is until the cat started coughing up hairballs, at which point she panicked. Thankfully her beloved Yui senpai came to the rescue! * Mugi started working a part time job at a fast food chain just for the heck of it (because she's actually loaded, see). Mugi is all about trying out new things she has not experienced before, so she was very excited for this [rather mundane job.](http://imgur.com/wMFDpMl) Things were going well until she made a couple of mistakes and lose all her confidence. Then a strange text from Yui somehow reminded her that things will be alright. * Ritsu had plan to go watch a movie with her little brother, but that's not the reason why she was acting all weird and trying to cover up for it. Occasionally we would a reminder like this: that Ricchan is a teenage girl too, and a maiden's heart [is complicated!](http://imgur.com/312C0gK) Ritsu thought someone was sending her [a love letter](http://imgur.com/x7amVtw) (thanks to Mio's antic) so this whole time she was being distracted and [super conscious of her appearance.](http://imgur.com/Useh0D7) Yui's ridiculous text snaps her out of it however. * Mio went to a beach [by herself,](http://imgur.com/zbkmKeG) in the middle of winter in order to write lyrics. This is probably not so strange for Mio, when you consider that she also does things like writing up love song lyrics on the computer, print it out on a piece of paper, then drop it into her friend's mailbox (which caused a [hilarious misunderstanding](http://imgur.com/8kiXLkG)). This trip to the beach however turns out to be a [huge mistake.](http://imgur.com/QVbasR0) It was the moment Mio received Yui's text that she realized: "I tried to be cool, but this is not working out. Time to head home." * Yui is the only one who remains [cheerful as ever.](http://imgur.com/4YnCnAS) She asked the club to join her for hot pot, [which everyone declined.](http://imgur.com/yKmeBjf) Yui being Yui she [remains optimistic,](http://imgur.com/cqQZS22) however. So she did this [one weird trick](http://imgur.com/RBwoL6d) to instantly break the winter ice and get her friends together - therapists hate her! It was great to have a look into the different lives of the keion girls outside of school and club. Yes they are all members of the Light Music Club but at same time, they are very much their own characters with their own goals as well as their own problems! We've learned that Azusa while always try to act mature, actually loves cute animals as much as Yui does. That Mugi has an unending curiosity about the everyday world around her, and that she will do whatever it takes to [experience it all.](http://imgur.com/DefJRFp) That Ritsu does behave like a big sister around her brother, and that despite acting tomboyish all the time, she actually has a girlish side too. That Mio is [rather quirky](http://imgur.com/Lde2rsV) and wandering alone in search of inspiration might actually be a regular activity for her - which by the way totally sounds like something a teenager in a band would do. Yui is the only one who is always comfortable being a 100% of herself 100% of the time. Yes she is [silly](http://imgur.com/67Ch8C5), [insensitive](http://imgur.com/asESCce) and sometimes [lame](http://imgur.com/IOrst8H) but she is always honest. Yui never has the need to hide what she is thinking, nor does she ever hesitate to express her feelings. We can't possibly all live our lives the same way Yui does, but sometimes, everyone need a friend like her. And so, while everybody was not being themselves, all it took was one silly text from Yui to [bring them together again.](http://imgur.com/n4nfjha) So thank you Yui, you unyielding bastion of eternal happiness - for we could all learn from her ability to [find joys in every little things in life,](http://imgur.com/mzP8Zah) no matter what! **MVP count** * Yui: 3 (Awarded on S1E08 because [fun things are fun,](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4wscca/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e08_freshman_reception/d69ipwj) S1E12 for [finding her purpose](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4xftij/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e12_light_music/d6f31n2) and S1E13 for bringing warmth to winter.) * Mio: 4 (Awarded on S1E03 for [valiant effort in education,](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4w0zjg/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e03_cram_session/d6320wr) S1E04 for [being a responsible moe moe kyun,](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4w6r08/comment/d64gwp7) S1E06 for [conquering her stage fright](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4whqoj/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e06_school_festival/d6722pt) and S1E09 for [being a respectable senpai.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4wyhj3/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e09_new_club_member/d6awzzz)) * Ritsu: 1 (Awarded on S1E01 for [founding the Light Music Club.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4vorjn/comment/d606uxc)) * Mugi: 1 (Awarded on S1E02 for [mad haggling skill.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4vusct/comment/d61jycw)) * Azusa: 1 (Awarded on SE10 for [mastering the way of the Keion.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4x4frn/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e10_another_training_camp/d6ccx6b)) * Sawako: 0 * Ui: 1 (Awarded on S1E07 for [being best imouto.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4wmq81/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e07_christmas/d687rea)) * Nodoka: 2 (Awarded on S1E05 for [bending the rules for her friends](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4wcmiy/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e05_advisor/d65w8s2) and S1E11 for [bending the rules, again.](https://www.reddit.com/r/anime/comments/4xabwt/spoilers_kon_rewatch_s1e11_crisis/d6ds62c))   #Musings * The [Yuism](http://imgur.com/3s2kkBC) is strong in this episode. It is indeed rare that Yui happens to be the one who taught everyone else a lesson like this. * You are [speaking my mind](http://imgur.com/PrZBM7T) Yui. * Maybe Mio should [write a song about that.](http://imgur.com/RI8ni6P)

  • Ole Robel Reply

    I think we all know the Band Girl who really loves her job.

  • Nelson Rutherford Reply

    Haha, brave man (or woman, I don't know). I'm 36 and I don't really want to know what "the kids" are listening to. I was raised on classic rock and I'll blast that shit out of my truck up and down the highway, I don't care who thinks I'm old. I love some 80s music too (for me, classic rock is 70s and back... not this "20 years old or more" shit now... Korn is not classic rock! (Though I do dig their older stuff.) The "new" shit seems to be EDM. Electronic dance music. Techno, dubstep, stuff like that. I don't dig it at all. I got a Deadmau5 album and a Skrillex album for free on Google Music and I listened to each of them for a while, looking for a redeeming quality, and came away with nothing. I don't mean to knock them to their fans, but I couldn't find anything for me on them. When I'm not listening to the music I grew up on, I do have some eclectic tastes. I like Nightwish, a symphonic metal band from Finland. They're not as obscure as they once were. People have heard of them now. Look up "End of All Hope" or "Wishmaster" for an older song. "Devil and the Deep Dark Sea" if you just wanna bang your head (or "Pharaoh Sails to Orion"). If your girl likes Enya and you wanna ease her into Nightwish, you want "Swanheart" (beautiful, but powerful). Newer stuff? I like "Last Ride of the Day".... the entire Imaginaerum album seemed weird at first, until I watched the movie. The band made a movie, it's kind of like Pink Floyd's The Wall... story wrapped around the music. But the story is very good... damn good movie all around, actually. Made sense of the album, too. New album is kind of forgettable, but "Elan" is a decent song. Also some anime music... wife is a real otaku, not quite a weeaboo but I like to tease her that she is, or that her weeb level is over 9000 (she loves that one). She watches a metric fuck ton of anime. And she shares the best with me. And I admit, some of it is very good. Fullmetal Alchemist, Toradora!, Steins;Gate, Death Note, Your Lie in April, Erased... some amazing stories coming out of Japan now, even worth reading subtitles for (though, I prefer English). The economy of music and anime in Japan is really interesting. Anime is big there, and it can make a new band's career to be featured in a popular anime series. We don't really do that here (in the US) and we should. Our popular shows should be bringing up new bands. Anyway, lots of good music in anime... "Ready Steady Go" by L'arc~en~Ciel and "Re: Re:" by Asian Kung Fu Generation come to mind. A lot of these songs are in Japanese, of course. And that's fine, I think they sound good. I like a lot of foreign stuff. Rammstein for one, but only when I'm in the mood, usually it's too heavy. And then sometimes YouTubers will translate it. There's a guy up there, NateWantsToBattle, who does a pretty good job. He has a fan translation of "Re: Re:" my wife and I like. It's neat, the translations, because the cadence of the words is more important than the precision of the translation, so you have to be creative with it. Or rather, they have to be creative. And then there's the actual singing, not everyone can do that. Lastly, not all "kids" listen to shit music. When my niece was 5, her grandfather took her to a Hannah Montana concert, because little girls generally like Hannah Montana. And she pretended to, but didn't. See, where I was raised on my mother's record collection, my niece was raised on Rockband and Guitar Hero, and the songs her stepfather played on drums. A lot of classic rock, hard rock, and punk rock. We actually just took her to her first rock concert. We took her to Disturbed, six days before her 13th birthday, and she loved it. She was already a fan of theirs, and we gave her their new album for Christmas. Now she wants to go to see Green Day. I never have, and seeing them is actually on my bucket list. I gave her the old, "we'll see," but if we get the opportunity, we're definitely bringing her along. I love that she loves the punk side of rock. She also likes Rise Against and A Day to Remember. So not "real punk" (which I don't really know myself) but the punk-inspired hard rock. And the punk rock bands like blink 182 and, I'll probably get shit if I name more, people bitch about genres. Pop punk, emo, it's all good. ..

  • Terrance Hoppe Reply

    **comment content**: Plot twist, she's playing "the way we were." **subreddit**: funny **submission title**: A band girl who really loves her job **redditor**: EZ_does_it **comment permalink**: https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/4rmhod/a_band_girl_who_really_loves_her_job/d52fk44

  • Maribel Collins Reply

    **comment content**: Plot twist, there is no music **subreddit**: funny **submission title**: A band girl who really loves her job **redditor**: chrisallison **comment permalink**: https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/4rmhod/a_band_girl_who_really_loves_her_job/d52h59h

  • Quinton Okuneva Reply

    **comment content**: Plot twist - same girl! **subreddit**: funny **submission title**: A band girl who really loves her job **redditor**: Kranke **comment permalink**: https://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/4rmhod/a_band_girl_who_really_loves_her_job/d52sf9t

  • Kobe Connelly Reply

    I just upvoted this: http://i.imgur.com/RMm6Za3.jpg Can someone tell me, though, why the band video here, the girl-who-really-loves-her-job, links to just a still shot, a .jpg? Did you get a .gifv on your page?

  • Jennifer White Reply

    A band girl who really loves her ~~job~~ drugs.